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As I have written in other articles, if I'm feeling good about a sub, I like to give him a treat (often fantasy fulfillment or scene-based activities - see my articles on these subjects). Sometimes this entails prolonged scenes with complex predicaments, however, treats can also be quick, simple gifts which are easy to give and leave a lasting impression.
The subliminal messages all treats deliver to a sub are:
- I recognize and appreciate that you're working hard to
please me
- I'm going to give you something I know you like but are not demanding or expecting
- I'm in total control and can give or take away I'm thinking
about our roles right now*
* Dommes - myself included - sometimes forget how important that last message is to a sub. While we expect the sub to be focused on our needs, we also know it's not submission if their efforts are not received from a position of dominance. While we expect the sub to demonstrate the self discipline required to carry out their submissive activities without requiring the need for sub-centric acts on our part, a little demonstration of power goes a long way to make his job easier.
Below, I've listed a number of treats which require no forethought and are delivered with minimal effort. Still, they pack a wonderful short-term sub-space punch. You'll notice the key to effectiveness of these gifts is a seemingly arbitrary delivery. The less sense a treat makes, the more effective it will be. These are not acts of dominance (see my other articles), these are sub-centric activities. They are "simple gifts".
1. Have him give thanks
When we give a sub a number of things to do...or, if he is merely carrying out his normal routine, it is a treat to make him take the time to stop and thank you for the opportunity to serve you. For example, the other day, my sub came to me for approval of a prepared grocery list, a cleaning list, and a schedule to be followed by the other subs in order to get my house ready for company. I approved the lists then, as he turned to begin execution of the tasks, I stopped him and told him he could kiss my feet in thanks before starting. I knew this was a treat for him...simple, small, but a treat nevertheless. The smile which creeped onto his face as he sank to his knees was priceless. In the midst of the chaos of getting the work done, this simple, non-extreme gift let him know I appreciated his efforts, gave him something he enjoys, clearly stated my dominance, and demonstrated my awareness of our roles - all in 10 seconds.
2. Take control of his body
Capricious application of power over the natural body functions of another - for no apparent reason other than whim and delivered completely unexpectedly - is a very effective and easy method of giving a treat. Tell a sub to hold his breath for no reason...then have him breathe quickly, or slowly. Walk in on a sub when he's urinating and tell him to stop the flow...then start it again on queue. Have a sub get erect and keep himself erect for as long as you want...even when you're doing other things. Tell a sub to start doing jumping jacks, or situps, or squat thrusts. Have him stop his chores to come across the house and count backwards from 100 by 7's, then return to his chores. Have him stand on one leg, hop and sing like a bird, bark like a dog...anything. The sillier and less meaningful the better. These types of 'simple' tasks will be perceived as treats for they demonstrate total control. He is powerless to deny your seemingly arbitrary whims.
3. Use his mouth
The addage: "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" misses an even more powerful location along the route! We usually control what we put in our mouths. Having someone else determine what goes in your mouth is a violation of personal space...It is an act reserved for those who wish to demonstrate total control. There is no end to the harmless things you can make your sub taste, suck, chew on, swallow, or just hold in their mouths. The more disgusting, the stronger the sense of power. The stronger the sense of power, the better the treat. The balance is in your hands.
Furthermore, if the item is of a personal nature, the treat gains in sexual tension. Spitting a wad of chewed gum (or just spitting) into
a sub's mouth will be perceived as an intimate contact. Having him swallow the clippings from your toes or drink from the footbath water after he's given you a pedicure are treats requiring no effort but are high in intimate contact. Having him kiss your hands, fingers, feet,
ass, breasts, armpits, etc. are obvious sexually-charged treats.
Though more extreme than I prefer, toilet play and menstrual play have their applicability.
The idea is a quick, simple, and very effective taste treat!
4. Give him obstacles
Another simple treat for a sub is to make it more difficult for him to get a task done. If the task is not something where time is of the essence, you might want to give him a challenge to serve you properly. Again, this is a treat for him - since he's trying to serve you, he's trying to do your bidding as efficiently as possible. You counter by forcing him to follow a potentially difficult set of instructions on your whim. Like all these techniques, the key to this kind of treat is delivering the requirement in an apparently arbitrary manner.
If he's ironing, make him iron with only his non-dominant hand. Have him stand on one leg. Clean the toilet...blindfolded. Take out the garbage...in small paper bags. Have him clear the leaves...with a toy rake...or with a pair of tweezers.
Note: You need to be careful with this type of treat. Don't lose sight of the fact that the activity which he is attempting is one which serves you. Don't sacrifice service just to give him a treat. You'd use this type of treat only if you don't really care how long it takes him to do the task. Also, don't reduce your expectations for completeness or neatness just because he has an obstacle. Remember, obstacles are things you see when you take your eyes off the goal!
5. Quick but painful
The last category is one which subs really love. This can be linked to any of the techniques above, or can be used alone. The goal is a quick, effortless, yet painful situation given as a treat. It can be as simple as a slap in the face (or for a real treat, 10 slaps in succession). Perhaps flick his nose, bend his fingers, twist his nipples, half-knee his balls, slap a wrestling hold on him and force him to say 'uncle'. The trick is to do this in an unexpected, undeserved, and arbitrary manner. There is no reason for this pain other than your whim.
It would have been completely appropriate if, after having my sub thank me for approving his lists while kissing my foot, I had him kneel up straight, put his hands behind his back, and then smacked his face hard, back and forth a few times before sending him on his way. He clearly would perceive it as a valuable gift.
There are many, many more ways to give a simple gift to a sub.
While we don't want to get into the habit of providing these gifts (unpredictablility is key), they are very effective ways to let a sub know you love him and understand him. Used wisely, they will maintain an edge in your relationships and besides, they're fun!
Love,
- Rika.
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